• Coaching is a collaborative, non-clinical process focused on goals, designed to help individuals move forward with clarity and purpose. Coaches do not diagnose or treat mental health conditions.

• Coaching is grounded in the belief that individuals are capable and resourceful, and ready to take action—even when they don’t yet have all the answers.

• Coaching is particularly beneficial for individuals who are functioning well but feel stuck, uncertain, or in need of direction and accountability. It is present- and future-focused, supporting people in clarifying goals, making decisions, and taking meaningful, follow-through action.

• Counseling is mental health care given by licensed professionals—counselors, therapists, and psychologists. They are trained and certified (as required by their role and state) to evaluate and treat mental health issues and, when allowed, to make diagnoses.

• Counseling helps people dealing with problems that interfere with daily life, like anxiety, depression, trauma, grief, or harmful behavior patterns.

• Counseling looks at the deeper problems and helps with whatever makes it hard to function, cope, or feel safe and steady.

• The individual has sufficient emotional stability to take consistent action

• The work centers on goals, decision-making, and practical next steps

• The individual is generally able to self-regulate and follow through on commitments week to week

• Mental health symptoms are intense, ongoing, or escalating

• Everyday functioning is disrupted, including such things as work, sleep, or basic routines

• The situation calls for diagnosis, treatment, or other forms of clinical care

If you choose to work with us you are getting the opportunity to sit across from a married who has had to navigate the ups and downs of marriage. We are very familiar with our own negative cycle of disconnection from which we pull from our personal experiences in learning to change a cycle of disconnection to one of connection. As coaches, we have more freedom to share our lives more openly with those we work with whereas counselors have restrictions and regulations that inhibit their ability to relate openly and personally with their clients. In addition, not many couples counselors work with another counselor of the opposite sex, let alone their significant other. Our approach to couples coaching is for those couples who desire to sit across from another couple who understand the struggles and trials of marriage. We have sought to grow and learn from the resources that helped us in our marriage to be paid forward to help other couples.

We use an attachment model that derives from such resources as How We Love and Hold Me Tight. Our work also incorporates a Biblical perspective and lens with which we seek to incorporate the Gospel. We seek to reorient couples to remember who created marriage and where their hope ultimately must rest. Couples coaching is present and solution-focused, which means our focus is on helping couples identify a cycle of disconnection impacting their present relationship and change it in order to have a better marriage in the future.